Living with dementia: Jude's love letter

"I started caring for Dad 7 years ago, just after Mum died. I was in full-time employment at the time and was finding it very difficult. I eventually went part time but that was proving too much. Dad wasn't taking his medication, having his breakfast or washing and dressing, so I gave up work and became his full time carer. This was when Dad was diagnosed with dementia. I thought "right Jude, shoulders back, deep breaths and crack on", which is what I'm doing. 

"The road of dementia is paved with frustration, heartache, anger and pain, but also with laughter and memories that will hopefully stay with me for life. It's not just Dad's life that has changed, but mine too. No more nights out with friends, weekends away, holidays or shopping trips. Instead, I've become the parent, with someone at home who depends on me for everything. I never thought my life would end up like this, I had dreams too, but you know what? I wouldn't change it for the world.

"Dad is 91 years old now, so I'm well aware of how long we have left, not many years ahead. I think of dementia as a giant jigsaw puzzle and every now and then a piece is taken away, never to be returned. I love my Dad, he's my world. A kind, honest and true gentleman. Don't get me wrong, there are many times I throw my hands up and say "I give in, I can't do this anymore", but then I look at him and my heart just melts.

"Time is precious now so keep calm, carry on and shoulders to the wheel as they say, for tomorrow is not guaranteed."

Jude x